The Storytellers

I was thinking today as I finished filming on The Down Deep…..”The Storytellers” is the last lesson in the series….and it occurred to me that this is really what we all want in life.  To tell our story.  To be heard.  To be acknowledged that we have been heard.  But here’s the thing, we really only need to tell our story to ourselves in order to be acknowledged.  Our truth and the way it informs our art/story is our own.  It doesn’t have to be told to anyone else.  Although we live in a society that seemingly tells everything, it’s not really necessary for everyone to know your story. It is imperative however that you know it.   It’s imperative that you not only know it, but that you incorporate it into your emotional and spiritual landscape. In other words…tell the truth to yourself.  There’s plenty of untruths circulating in our world today without adding to them.  Just a thought….because seriously…it’s important that we start somewhere.

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The Down Deep

Hey everyone….I’m so pleased to announce this class…”The Down Deep”. When we are stuck in our thinking mind, we can forget that we are creative beings with many different stories to tell. Beneath our “thinking mind” are hidden stories, skills, resources, positive values, dreams, and desires. In the down deep we listen for indications of strength and knowledge within our own life stories. In this course you will learn how to put into practice new ways of “seeing”, of mining the down deep of your subconscious. This is a way to begin to understand yourself and your world thru your art. I hope you’ll join me for this creative journey! Woot!Click on the link for more details! https://www.artismagic.online/the-down-deep

 

Energy does expand…..Or why you should cheer on your peers!

A friend of mine recently asked me…”why do you share other artists posts about their classes or successes.  Aren’t you a little jealous?”  “Aren’t you afraid that your students will become their students..etc.”?  The answer to that is a big NO. No I’m not afraid, no I’m not envious, no I don’t think my classes will suffer.  No, no, no to all of that.  Do I wish their success was mine? No. Because then I would have to create like them, or be them and I can’t do that.  So that would be a big fail lol.

What I do think is this…there is enough success to go around for everyone.  If you don’t believe that than just look out into the world.  Lots and lots and lots of successful people.   On every level and in every business.  Not just financially successful,  but emotionally and spiritually successful.  It’s not like there are two spots in the success business,  and you just got mine.  If you truly believe in success than you know that it is infinite and not finite.   My spot can’t be taken by you. If I gain my spot it does not cause you to lose yours.

And let me just say as an aside here…I see a lot of stuff about people copying someone else’s style.  Or their ideas. I’m a strong believer that we all sometimes copy in order to learn. (while of course giving credit to the teacher for that style as we are learning)  But long term…copiers won’t be successful.  They don’t have the same inspiration as the original artist. Their art will not be their own and will tend to fall flat. I can copy lots of styles for a short amount of time…but long term it doesn’t work for me and it won’t work for them.   I tend to ignore those people and go on about my creative life.  Ain’t nobody got time for all that!  And still those people are not “taking” my spot. To the copiers I would say…if you want a sure fire way to stop the creative energetic flow….keep it up! Because all of that copying crap comes from fear of not being good enough and laziness.  And that kind of fear/attitude is death to your art practice.  Just saying.

Back to the most important reason you should cheer on your peers.  Because it takes a village.  That’s why.  It takes friends, and supporters to even start to be successful in the art world.  It takes an amazing amount of energy and practice and just all around knowledge to begin the journey.   I applaud that in others,  I applaud that in you…I applaud that in myself.  I want you to cheer me on as I’m on the journey, to be smiling at me because you are happy for me.  Just as I am happy for you.  Your success is my success because it gets the energy moving.  See how that works?  That right there is how energy expands and fills up the world.  Thank you!  You’re welcome!

 

You can blame others or save yourself!

Either or.  Not both I’ve decided.  IT’s a funny thing about lessons.  They come when you need them right?  But in my case, I often notice a lesson playing out for others, before I realize that the dang lesson is for me.  So I’m going along watching others struggle with something and feeling like I got it HA!  and then I realize…dang the lesson is for me…not for them. Or maybe it’s for them…but it’s for me too.

This particular lesson has come up about ten times in the last four or five days.  Because, you know, I couldn’t get it the first time.  So, I’ve found myself , hypocritically, trying to point this lesson out to those around me. While not really practicing this little piece of spiritual advice myself.   I hate when I’m a hypocrite.  Ugh.

So, today, I sat with this thought while going about my other responsibilities.  Hey universe…I get it.  Blaming others leads to a whole lot of victim hood, depression, fear blah blah. Then I thought for awhile about how you can avoid blaming others.  At first, I was kind of like…“hey, other people do wrong you sometimes.  Other people can be wrong.  Murderers for instance…child abusers, people who interfere with your joy and happiness, liars (and there’s alot of that on the American scene right now) That is all true I said to myself.  Dang right it’s true I answered myself back”!  Still…what’s the answer to not blaming? Because blaming someone ….even if you think they deserve it… is still not going to get you down the path of healing and enlightenment right?

I suspect that the answer is different for different people.  But here’s what I came up with if it helps…

1.  Identify the problem.  Take a real,  realistic honest look at what is really bothering you.  Look at it from different perspectives.  What makes it better?  What would make your feelings about it change? Can you understand where the other person was coming from?  If not, can you at least get out of the blaming space?

2. Face your fears…take responsibility for resolving it.  No one is going to fix it for you. Most times the person you are blaming is not going to fix it because who even knows what their experience of the whole situation is?  They may be blaming you right back or have some other agenda that you’re not even aware of. Hey…they have their own journey and you have yours.  Save yourself is what I’m saying.

3. Don’t waste your time feeling bad and doing nothing.  Do something.  And if you can’t do something now…then let it go until you can. Really let it go.  Don’t do that martyr thing because… nobody looks good doing all that.

And last but not least…something I learned from Marianne Williamson….Pray hard for the person who you feel has wronged you. For days.  Either it will change them or it will change how you feel about what they did. Or you will get tired and move on to some other problem…lol.  You think I’m kidding but I seriously don’t have the behavioural  energy for long term blame, anger, and grudge holding.  For the most part, you have to really do me wrong in order for me to remember to be mad. And even then I mostly forget.

Now, if I can just put all that into practice…laughter…I’ll let you know.  Guru-in- practice Fonda…signing out.

Just hold her hand…

 

Today,  we are celebrating the birth of our first Granddaughter.  It was a hard road to get her here.  I won’t bore you with the specifics but it’s truly a miracle that she was born at all.   I can honestly say that I will never forget the sight of her being born after a long and painful delivery process. I won’t forget watching my daughter, struggle to bring her into the world, as she held my hand and stared up into my face. I won’t forget praying that the pain would be over for her soon. I won’t forget watching her husband coach her on so lovingly,  and cut his newborn daughter’s umbilical cord.  I will not ever forget the sight of my granddaughter tumbling into the world and my feelings of awe….and terror.  I may or may not have done some ugly crying in that moment.

I watched her begin her life… and I watched my daughter struggling to regain her equilibrium and begin her life as a Mom.  I watched as my granddaughter nursed for the first time and how my daughter’s entire universe tilt-shifted towards her in that very moment. I recognized the signs because I have had that exact same moment with my daughter and son. There is incredible power in becoming a mom. Just imagine… your daughter will quiet at the sound of your voice in the curve of your arm. Just by holding her you can lower a fever. You and Ian will be her whole world for many, many years.  She will need you like nobody has ever needed you. It’s overwhelming and terrifying and exhausting. And, It’s worth every damn second.

I can’t put an age to it, but I remember at some point feeling as though I’d learned it all. I was years deep in motherhood before I learned how much I had left to learn. I don’t know where you’re at but I think it would be beneficial to you if you accepted right here and now that there is a lifetime of lessons ahead. Motherhood stretches you and opens your eyes to crazy truths and questions without definitive answers. If you can realize that now…you will be way ahead of the game. I have a pretty good hunch of who you are, and of the kind of mom you are going to be. For what it’s worth, you’ve got this. I know you do.

And consider this… you come from a long line of first daughters.  Your daughter, Maddie, has been added to that history, as a first daughter.  There have been such powerful, graceful, intelligent women in our family lineage and I already know that Maddie is the culmination.  She is a powerful force in this world.  I know you will raise her in that belief.  I truly do believe that as the Dalai Lama said…”western women will save the world.”

Call me whenever. Call me when she won’t stop crying or when you can’t. Call me when she first smiles on purpose. Call me when it hits: the awe of being somebody’s mom. Call me because you matter to me and she matters to me and even if I’m busy I always want to hear from you. You know that I am always going to make time to hold your hand and Maddie’s. Not because you need it.  But because I want to.  I know in the days and months and years ahead, you will understand that feeling now. As a matter of fact, the best advice I can give you is this…just hold her hand. Holding your hand thru the years has changed my life.  I know it will change yours.

 

 

The Summoner

Years ago I read a book by…I think it was by Marianne Williamson, and she made the point that we should look at our lives sort of like the hero journey(she’s not the first to have this idea but the way she wrote it stuck with me).  At the time, I was on a fairytale kick in my art.  So I set about translating her idea into the whole fairytale theme, you know, as one does lol.  In any case, that whole idea stuck with me over the years.  I began to intuitively translate subconcious stuff into stories.  About me.  And my world. And what it meant to me. Thoughts and ideas became creatures in my artistic shorthand and emotions became characters. Now…I rarely have thoughts or feelings without sort of seeing a creature or character in my mind.  This either makes me very imaginative or mentally ill.  Could be either one.  I’m not saying which.

So I was thinking the other day about how we sort of pull into our lives what we need to know to learn or grow or heal.  As I was journaling, I started to get the idea of that part of myself being “The Summoner”.  Rather than life happening to us, it’s working for us. This made me feel a lot better. ( I mean I knew that, but I haven’t been internalizing it lately.)  Because no one wants random chaos and crap in their lives.  And there seems to be a lot of it around these days.  So then I thought…”what am I summoning into my life”…”am I even aware of that process” yada yada.  The answer is no. I’m not aware. But I see the results.  Oh yes I do. I know that I am summoning experiences to make me flow right outside of my comfort zone.  I know that I am stretching and morphing from one day to the next.  I know that I am working on many levels.  Because that’s what artists do….they transform the world around them with their vision.  And that right there…is the biggest summoning of all!

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It’s already the end of the world!

Those of you who know me…know that I live with anxiety.  And yeah…I can’t really even pass it off as one of those cool artist kind of things.  Because it’s not cool. Oddly,  I don’t usually think of myself as a person with an anxiety disorder,  which is funny, since a pretty solid chunk of my day is governed by the fact that I am a person with anxiety disorder. Anxiety can turn something as simple as my morning chores into a psychological game show, where I’m constantly trying to figure out the correct answer before the timer runs out. Do I get dressed now in case I need to go to the hospital for a terminal disease/heart attack/catastrophic health event, or wait because if I move it might just set off the cascading effects of said disease/heart attack/catastrophe?  Oops, you chose wrong, and now you’re having a panic attack! Not only that but you’re not even dressed properly…lol.  But thank you for playing “Generalized Anxiety Disorder”!

Over the years I’ve used lots of therapies…some that worked and some that were laughable but hey…I tried them just in case.  But here’s the point.  The one that has been most valuable…the one that is a life saver….is my journaling practice.  My right arm is my secret weapon.  When I feel overwhelmed, chaotic, in over my head, when it feels like the end of the world…I sit down to practice my art in a journal.  I sit down to tour my imagination, and get those subconscious thoughts out on paper.  You can’t heal if you don’t deal…lol.  To get all hippiewoo on you.   And here’s what I know.  Anxiety, for me, is coming from suppressed emotions/thoughts.  I make it a practice to share those thoughts and emotions everyday.  In my journal.   I let my subconscious out to take a walk.  To send light to those dark crazy spaces.  Because anxiety is not the boss of me. It’s not even a good survival technique for me.  And It’s most definitely not a good fashion look for me.  True Story!

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Art is Magic….Oh yes it is!!

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