The above is titled “The light at the heart of things”
And the one below is “I am more than this”
This week the Club hosted a teen concert with a wonderful anti-bullying campaign. Afterwards one of my teen students came to find me and she said all starry eyed… “Ms. Fonda I feel so loved”! When I asked her why, she told me that one of the teen stars of the show had kissed her on the cheek. I thought ..well that was nice of them to do that, and I carried on with my day. But, it stayed with me. And it started to bother me and the more I thought about it, the more it …bothered me…and here’s why. I’ve spent three years telling this girl that she is awesome and beautiful. We spend loads of time at the club telling girls that they don’t need a guy to feel loved, important, beautiful, awesome etc. etc. We tell them that they are all those things already. We want them to know and understand that they don’t need someone outside of themselves to feel good about themselves. But I wonder how many of them believe it? And further..I wonder how many of us believe it? My guess is not one in ten if that. Because we are all bombarded socially and in the media with a different story, aren’t we? Just to be clear this is NOT an anti-men rant. This is actually a women and female mentors are failing their daughters and girls rant. How far have we moved on from the four or five categories that women are allowed to fulfill (Saint, Mother, daughter, model, wife, prostitute, doormat blah blah)? I want those girls to know that they are so much more than their bodies, their looks, their hair…especially their hair, their clothes. But social media, Hollywood, and peer pressure are much stronger than the message we are trying to teach them. Heck, most of us teaching them believe it’s a politically correct message, but we have been raised with the very same subtle messages we are trying to combat… and often are losing the battle ourselves. So what’s the answer? I don’t know. But I’m thinking about it. And you ladies out there should be thinking about it too. Because I can promise you that these young women around you are thinking about it. And how can we expect them to change the world without a plan?
In my journal today…”I’m more than this”