When

“one runs the risk of weeping a little if one let’s oneself be tamed”  I was thinking about this the other day as I watched my granddaughter absolutely demand what she needed.  My daughter said to me…”she’s a wild child today”. I laughed, in sympathy,  and carried on with my day.  I had a thought when I came to my journal though…when did we give up demanding what we need? How are we as women taught in oh so many ways to give in, give up, change our minds, hide, pretend, smooth over, reconcile and just be different in one way or another?  (I don’t believe it’s only women but that’s the only experience I can speak to) Why haven’t we supported each other in our quest for those things we really really need?  Respect, equal pay, emotional freedom, freedom to make decisions about our own bodies….freedom from fear of physical harm….why why why haven’t we risen up and fought for these things? Why didn’t our mothers? Maya Angelou said “when you know better you do better”.   I’ve always agreed with that but just lately given the things going on in the world….  I wonder.  I wonder alot. Just things that I’m pondering over here in the snowy orchard today!

Because I Can

Someone famous said…and I can’t pull their name from my brain right now…”if when you get up in the morning all you can think about is making art …then you are an artist.” I heard that loud and clear many years ago now…some twenty years I guess. I started working then to believe that. One day I was doing a show, back when I worked with pastels…and I listened to people talking about my art…and one woman said “oh I ‘d love that painting if it were in lavender. Could you paint it for me in lavender”? And I just had an aha moment. My art isn’t a burger from Burger king. (by the way if you’re outside the states that’s a fast food place who used to have the slogan “have it your way”) You can’t have it your way. It’s my way or no way. I’m the artist. Maybe the one place in my life that I get to say that. IT”S MY WAY. When I really, really internalized that…I started to be ok with creating truthful art ….because I am doing it my way. I’m telling my truth. Because I can!!  I still have those voices that say…don’t post that, people will think you’re not good enough, or you’re not an artist or whatever. And then I just say to myself and those voices…I’m doing it my way. Get out of my way….I’m an artist and that means being brave enough to listen to myself and tell the truth. My job an an artist is to know how I feel so that I can convey that to you. I can’t know how I feel if I’m worried about how you feel. Does this resonate at all?

The Storytellers

I was thinking today as I finished filming on The Down Deep…..”The Storytellers” is the last lesson in the series….and it occurred to me that this is really what we all want in life.  To tell our story.  To be heard.  To be acknowledged that we have been heard.  But here’s the thing, we really only need to tell our story to ourselves in order to be acknowledged.  Our truth and the way it informs our art/story is our own.  It doesn’t have to be told to anyone else.  Although we live in a society that seemingly tells everything, it’s not really necessary for everyone to know your story. It is imperative however that you know it.   It’s imperative that you not only know it, but that you incorporate it into your emotional and spiritual landscape. In other words…tell the truth to yourself.  There’s plenty of untruths circulating in our world today without adding to them.  Just a thought….because seriously…it’s important that we start somewhere.

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The Down Deep

Hey everyone….I’m so pleased to announce this class…”The Down Deep”. When we are stuck in our thinking mind, we can forget that we are creative beings with many different stories to tell. Beneath our “thinking mind” are hidden stories, skills, resources, positive values, dreams, and desires. In the down deep we listen for indications of strength and knowledge within our own life stories. In this course you will learn how to put into practice new ways of “seeing”, of mining the down deep of your subconscious. This is a way to begin to understand yourself and your world thru your art. I hope you’ll join me for this creative journey! Woot!Click on the link for more details! https://www.artismagic.online/the-down-deep

 

Energy does expand…..Or why you should cheer on your peers!

A friend of mine recently asked me…”why do you share other artists posts about their classes or successes.  Aren’t you a little jealous?”  “Aren’t you afraid that your students will become their students..etc.”?  The answer to that is a big NO. No I’m not afraid, no I’m not envious, no I don’t think my classes will suffer.  No, no, no to all of that.  Do I wish their success was mine? No. Because then I would have to create like them, or be them and I can’t do that.  So that would be a big fail lol.

What I do think is this…there is enough success to go around for everyone.  If you don’t believe that than just look out into the world.  Lots and lots and lots of successful people.   On every level and in every business.  Not just financially successful,  but emotionally and spiritually successful.  It’s not like there are two spots in the success business,  and you just got mine.  If you truly believe in success than you know that it is infinite and not finite.   My spot can’t be taken by you. If I gain my spot it does not cause you to lose yours.

And let me just say as an aside here…I see a lot of stuff about people copying someone else’s style.  Or their ideas. I’m a strong believer that we all sometimes copy in order to learn. (while of course giving credit to the teacher for that style as we are learning)  But long term…copiers won’t be successful.  They don’t have the same inspiration as the original artist. Their art will not be their own and will tend to fall flat. I can copy lots of styles for a short amount of time…but long term it doesn’t work for me and it won’t work for them.   I tend to ignore those people and go on about my creative life.  Ain’t nobody got time for all that!  And still those people are not “taking” my spot. To the copiers I would say…if you want a sure fire way to stop the creative energetic flow….keep it up! Because all of that copying crap comes from fear of not being good enough and laziness.  And that kind of fear/attitude is death to your art practice.  Just saying.

Back to the most important reason you should cheer on your peers.  Because it takes a village.  That’s why.  It takes friends, and supporters to even start to be successful in the art world.  It takes an amazing amount of energy and practice and just all around knowledge to begin the journey.   I applaud that in others,  I applaud that in you…I applaud that in myself.  I want you to cheer me on as I’m on the journey, to be smiling at me because you are happy for me.  Just as I am happy for you.  Your success is my success because it gets the energy moving.  See how that works?  That right there is how energy expands and fills up the world.  Thank you!  You’re welcome!

 

You can blame others or save yourself!

Either or.  Not both I’ve decided.  IT’s a funny thing about lessons.  They come when you need them right?  But in my case, I often notice a lesson playing out for others, before I realize that the dang lesson is for me.  So I’m going along watching others struggle with something and feeling like I got it HA!  and then I realize…dang the lesson is for me…not for them. Or maybe it’s for them…but it’s for me too.

This particular lesson has come up about ten times in the last four or five days.  Because, you know, I couldn’t get it the first time.  So, I’ve found myself , hypocritically, trying to point this lesson out to those around me. While not really practicing this little piece of spiritual advice myself.   I hate when I’m a hypocrite.  Ugh.

So, today, I sat with this thought while going about my other responsibilities.  Hey universe…I get it.  Blaming others leads to a whole lot of victim hood, depression, fear blah blah. Then I thought for awhile about how you can avoid blaming others.  At first, I was kind of like…“hey, other people do wrong you sometimes.  Other people can be wrong.  Murderers for instance…child abusers, people who interfere with your joy and happiness, liars (and there’s alot of that on the American scene right now) That is all true I said to myself.  Dang right it’s true I answered myself back”!  Still…what’s the answer to not blaming? Because blaming someone ….even if you think they deserve it… is still not going to get you down the path of healing and enlightenment right?

I suspect that the answer is different for different people.  But here’s what I came up with if it helps…

1.  Identify the problem.  Take a real,  realistic honest look at what is really bothering you.  Look at it from different perspectives.  What makes it better?  What would make your feelings about it change? Can you understand where the other person was coming from?  If not, can you at least get out of the blaming space?

2. Face your fears…take responsibility for resolving it.  No one is going to fix it for you. Most times the person you are blaming is not going to fix it because who even knows what their experience of the whole situation is?  They may be blaming you right back or have some other agenda that you’re not even aware of. Hey…they have their own journey and you have yours.  Save yourself is what I’m saying.

3. Don’t waste your time feeling bad and doing nothing.  Do something.  And if you can’t do something now…then let it go until you can. Really let it go.  Don’t do that martyr thing because… nobody looks good doing all that.

And last but not least…something I learned from Marianne Williamson….Pray hard for the person who you feel has wronged you. For days.  Either it will change them or it will change how you feel about what they did. Or you will get tired and move on to some other problem…lol.  You think I’m kidding but I seriously don’t have the behavioural  energy for long term blame, anger, and grudge holding.  For the most part, you have to really do me wrong in order for me to remember to be mad. And even then I mostly forget.

Now, if I can just put all that into practice…laughter…I’ll let you know.  Guru-in- practice Fonda…signing out.